What all things come to our mind when we hear the name of a place/country? The geography,people, famous personalities, monuments,food,culture,climate etc. Take the case of Australia, the moment we hear it, a virtual slide show happen in our minds comprising Kangaroos, Sydney opera house, the great barrier reef,the cricket team etc. If its India, it will be Mahatma Gandhi, Taj Mahal,curry etc. Definitely the picture will be different for people who had been to a place and who had not been.
Whenever I get opportunity to interact with people of other nationalities, I share thoughts about culture,history, lifestyle etc. During such a conversation,I got a few questions from an English guy which really 'shook' me. He was a friendly guy with a good sense of humour.He worked in almost all deepwater oil hubs (Gulf of mexico,North sea, West africa, middle east,SE Asia ,NW Australia etc) and had a fair amount of knowledge about history and culture across the globe.It was his first assignment in India and was working for a project management consultant to my company.
For ease, let me call him Mr.H.. here goes his first question.....
Mr.H: Why do Indians shit publicly on road and all?
Me : Who told that?
Mr.H: I ve seen people doing that.
Me : Ok , I guess you might have seen this at Kakinada, right? If you go to rural areas like that, It ll be a common sight. The people over there are very poor and mostly are peasants and are illiterate. They don't have enough money to built a toilet.
Mr.H:To your surprise ,I ve seen that in a city, Vizag. If the people are too poor, then why dont the government do it?
Me : If you take the case of my state Kerala, you can hardly find a house without toilet. You know why? The people are educated and through local self govts,poor people got aid .I think the governments should educate people on this regard and aid them.
Shame on the govt!! Can you imagine even in your weirdest thoughts ,people shitting publicly in Singapore or Paris?
Lets move on to his next question.He thought that I was a christian and asked me whether I was one.Hearing that I am a Hindu he went on like this.
Mr.H: I ve heard that the Hindu society is divided into 4 classes. Whats the need to divide your society?
Me : You re talking about the caste system. To be frank I don't really know why it still exist.
Mr.H: So which class do you belong to among the four?
Me : I don't belong to any of those.
Mr.H: Why?
Me : My forefathers were said to be Buddhists. Somewhere in the history, they converted to Hinduism. It wasn't a sudden conversion, but a gradual one and they weren't allowed into the mainstream Hinduism. Historians have got different versions of this story.
Mr.H: Ok,I guess the classes are based on profession.
Me : Yeah, it was based on profession, but don't know really why people carry caste and subcastes even in this age. Let me tell my family history, from maternal side, my grandfather was a businessman, he was into textile business in my hometown. His dad was the manager of a transport company in erstwhile Travancore. From my paternal side, My grandfather was a farmer.My dad was a coating/painting inspector in the Middle east, now he is into books/stationery business.
Mr.H: Dividing the society on such basis doesn't do any good.
Me : People should realise that. Nobody is superior or inferior to others.And funniest thing is that nobody can convert to another caste like religious conversion. ha ha.
Mr.H: thats effing funny.
As an Indian,I really felt ashamed . I read in
Abhilash Sir's Blog about a Korean Buddhist whom he met commenting about casteism in India. For me casteism is no different from apartheid.
And his third question was about arranged marriages.
Mr.H: I am unable to digest the concept of arranged marriages.How could you do that.It seems like a business.
Me : Its simple as well as complicated.ha ha. The life partner is being foundout with the help of parents. A few decades back, the age at which people used to marry was well below 18. They weren't mature enough to find their partners their own.That may be one of the reasons .Apart from that, people never allowed intercaste marriages to happen. But I too really don't know why people still hold these concepts.
I am quite confused.
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